What IS FistFree Language™?

FistFree Language™ is a language-based conflict prevention program that works for anger, bullying, and conflict.

If you’re in any of these situations, FistFree Language™ can help.

• An “anger management problem” is creating havoc in your life.  Anger management courses don’t work.  You need a program that works.
• Your working environment is toxic.  The job is great, but working there is the pits.  You need some tools to help you survive there so you can continue to do the work you love and quite frankly, that you’re great at.
• Everyone around you is stressed out and at each other’s throats.  You need tools that help calm things down or at the very least, help you protect yourself from all the bullying and verbal attacks.
• You’re a manager in a toxic office.  When you try to calm a situation down, it blows up in your face.  You need tools to help you reduce all that toxic garbage.
• You’re stressed out to the max.  You find yourself chewing someone out when all they really needed was to be shown how to avoid making the same mistake again.  You need tools to help you cope better.

1. When we’re speaking with someone, we have three basic working assumptions:
2. that we’re “seeing” the situation accurately,
3. that the other person understands exactly what I’m saying — that is, they’re receiving the message we’re sending, and
   that we understand exactly what the other person is saying — that is, that we’re receiving the message they’re sending.
   

When we run into trouble, we suspect there may be a glitch in #2 — that they don’t understand what we’re saying.  We still assume that we’re “seeing” the situation accurately and completely and that we understand exactly what the other person is saying and what they mean to say.  It’s not until we end up in a conversation like this:

"But I didn’t say that."
"Oh yes, you did."
"Oh n-n-o-o-o-o, I didn’t."
"Oh yes, you did!!!"

that we also allow for the possibility that we might not have understood what they’re telling us (or what they told us).  At this point, we generally move into proving what we’ve said is right.  That we’re right, and they’re wrong.  Generally, it’s not until we’re in some crisis — or up against a wall, so to speak — that we look deeper.  With FistFree Language™, we look deeper.

FistFree Language™ uses information on how our brains process information, on how we think, what conflict is all about, and combines this information with proven language tools.  If you think of these as pieces of a puzzle, FistFree Language™ takes these pieces, shows you what they are and how to put them together.  It’s FistFree Language™, and it works!